Talismanic Words

by | Aug 5, 2016 | Church, Questions, Society

This was an ingenious phrase that a good friend reminded me of in recent days. I first came across it when I read the extremely helpful booklet: Preferential Option for the Family which you can download for free here

It’s a gem of a book which has been described thus:

“A handbook of 100 questions and answers explaining the Church’s doctrine on marriage and the family… With the aim of clearing up confusion ahead of the October Synod of Bishops on the Family.” This booklet authored by — Archbishop Aldo de Cillo Pagotto of Paraíba, Brazil, Bishop Robert Vasa of Santa Rosa, California and Bishop Athanasius Schneider, auxiliary of Astana, Kazakhstan — is described as a “vademecum [handbook] on the family.”

“Vade mecum” literally means ‘go with me.’ The idea being that you want the reader to explore a very important point or issue in more detail but not in an overly lengthy way. Occasionally the Holy See issues vademecums (one might call them clarifications if you like) by way of a little ‘tonic’ as it were, or ‘tiramisu’ [a pick-me-up] for the spiritual and pastoral life of Faithful. The last official vademecum [so far as I am aware] was the 1997 “Vademecum of Confessors Concerning Some Aspects of the Morality of the Conjugal Life” from the Pontifical Council for the Family. I explained what I think are the most significant aspects of this document in a letter which was published in the London Catholic Herald in April this year:

‘[It] is absolutely correct to state that perhaps a pastoral solution to difficulties in marriage might be to prepare priests for the confessional better. This was explored in great detail and with much precision in the vademecum of 1997. With its 20th anniversary coming up next February, we should revisit this document, in the light of Amoris Laetitia, especially paragraphs 9 and 10:

“9. The pastoral ‘law of gradualness’, not to be confused with the ‘gradualness of the law’ which would tend to diminish the demands it places on us, consists of requiring a decisive break with sin together with a progressive path towards total union with the will of God and with his loving demands.

“10. On the other hand, to presume to make one’s own weakness the criterion of moral truth is unacceptable.”

Striking the balance on the first so that an individual receiving guidance realizes the full import of the second is more important than ever for the integrity of matrimony. Or as Benedict XVI so wisely put it in his address to the Congress for the Diocese of Rome in 2005: “The educational relationship is, by its very nature, something delicate: it implies the other’s freedom who, even with gentleness, is forced to make a decision.” Amoris Laetitia ought not to be misinterpreted to dispense with this approach to pastoral care.’

My point being that what a vademecum does and should do is clarify important points, clear up confusion concerning crucial questions. We all have to do this don’t we from time to time?… Being clear about what we mean and meaning what we say and ensuring that others clearly understand what it is we communicate is the “currency” if you like of maintaining good harmonious relationships, whether that’s at work or family or among friends etc.

As Blessed Pope Paul VI so eloquently put it in his first encyclical Ecclesiam Suam

“Clarity [says Pope Paul] demands that what is said should be intelligible. We can think of it as a kind of thought transfusion […] all of us who feel the spur of the apostolate should examine closely the kind of speech we use. Is it easy to understand? Can it be grasped by ordinary people? Is it current idiom?” n81

And he reinforces, at paragraph 18, the need for clarity by saying how the virtue of prudence is essential for fruitful dialogue;

“…the prudence of a teacher who is most careful to make allowances for the psychological and moral circumstances of his hearer, [Mt.6:7]  particularly if he is a child, unprepared, suspicious or hostile […] is always at pains to learn the sensitivities of his audience, and […] adapts himself […] to the susceptibilities and the degree of intelligence of his hearers”

So words, and how we use them are important and the language of authentic loving as Christ loves is especially important. “Let your no mean no and your yes mean yes,” as Jesus says. So when we witness a talismanic use of words, we should be vigilant as to the intent behind the one using them. Why? Because a talisman is an object, typically an inscribed ring or stone, that is thought to have magic powers and to bring good luck, according to the dictionary, and luck, chance, confusion and constant indecision is not of God but from an altogether different source – the Father of Lies instead of the Prince of Peace.  And we must all be on our guard against it especially in our most important relationships.

As the authors of the Preferential Option for the Family put it:

Question:  What are “Talismanic Words”?
Answer:  A “talismanic word”, while legitimate in itself, carries strong emotional content, and as such is perceived as being entirely flexible and changeable, assuming different meanings depending on the context in which it is used. This elasticity makes it susceptible to being used for propaganda purposes and abused for ideological ends.

For example, a talismanic word is a useful tool to create an “unperceived ideological transhipment,” i.e., a process that changes a target person’s mindset without his realizing it, moving him from a legitimate to an illegitimate position. Manipulated by propaganda, the talismanic word gradually assumes meanings ever closer to the ideological positions to which the target persons are being led (cf. Plinio Corrêa de Oliveira, Unperceived Ideological Transhipment and Dialogue).

This process can be easily applied also to the Church community. In fact, the use of certain words and not others can push the faithful to replace a moral judgment with a sentimental one or a substantial judgment with a formal one, coming to regard as good, or at least tolerable, what at first was considered bad.

Edmund Adamus

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Edmund and his wife Catherine have been married for almost 18 years and have been blessed with 3 children; Patrick (who awaits them in Heaven), Paul and Beatrice. After 13 years of ministry in the Salford diocese and gaining a Master's in moral theology, he served the Archdiocese of Westminster from 2003-16 as Director for Pastoral Affairs/Marriage & Family Life. He successfully established the Annual Mass of Thanksgiving for Matrimony in Westminster cathedral as well as the Annual Theology of the Body Lecture series hosting world renowned scholars such as Michael Waldstein, Janet Smith and Christopher West. Christian Meert was also among those speakers. All his work both past and present has been through the prism of the truths of Humanae vitae. Since 2019 he has been Education Consultant to the relationships and sexuality formation project 'A Fertile Heart: Receiving & Giving Creative Love'. As freelance consultant he works as Secretary to the Commission of Inquiry into Discrimination Against Christians in the UK and has just been appointed Executive Director for the UK branch of the International Voluntary Solidarity Fund

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