It’s the beginning of September and for us school is in full swing. I am typically a lover of routine and schedule, but it is such a big adjustment this year. Last year we homeschooled some of our kids and so it seemed that things were a bit calmer in our house, and adjusting back to chaotic mornings, school drop offs and pick-ups at four different schools, and extracurricular activities have been tough for this mama. In the morning it takes a good hour to get everyone dropped off and then again at the end of the school day. Then my seven-year-old has therapy appointments most days after school and my 10-year-old has 2 hours of football four nights a week. This doesn’t include my daughter’s music, drama, and work activities. I am EXHAUSTED!!! Any other mama’s feel this way?
Not only am I exhausted, but my heart is also sad because our family time is now limited. This going from COVID pandemic isolation and spending almost every waking moment together, to now being home all together only 2 hours a day before we all hit the hay. That 2 hours is, sadly, filled with kids doing homework, and parents helping! I know I am NOT alone in my feelings. The challenge that has presented itself to me is that I need to really make the drives to and from school and our two hours all together in the evening really count! Family time has always mattered to us and when it’s limited, it’s even more important than it ever has been before.
So, what are we doing to make sure this family time is counting?
We are really working on making sure our encounters are positive and uplifting. This is something that isn’t always easy when we are tired and stressed from being busy. However, this is why our positive attitudes are NECESSARY!! We need to make our interactions with one anther really matter and count. We need to let each other know that we are each other’s #1 fans.
Second, when we have some gifted time without homework to worry about, we play a game or watch a movie…all together! This time recharges us for the next day when we may not be given the gift of this quality time together because it will be filled with homework.
Third, and most importantly, we PRAY for each other. Each day before my kids get out of the car to go to school, I ask them how I can pray for them as they go about their day. I ask them if there is anything they are anxious about coming up that day. All day long…I pray for them! My children have now taken it upon themselves asking how they can pray for me too…What a gift…because this mama needs prayers ?
Finally, at the end of the day, we all sit down and pray TOGETHER! We invoke our guardian angels and the saints to keep praying for us.
I know that this season of busy will not last forever. I know one day my house will be empty and the Bobrisha (AKA: Our Honda Pilate) will be bored…for it won’t be running to and from school and activities because they will have become more and more independent. This mama heart will not be exhausted, it will be lonely! Therefore, it is so important to make these family moments count and to instill in them that no matter what…we must strive to take care of each other. If we instill it now, in a few short years as they run themselves to and from where they need to go, they will still have a great desire to check-in with and pray for each other! As St. Mother Teresa says, “If you want to change the world, go home and love your family!” May our children know what it means to love their family, even when they are busy! St. Mother Theresa…Pray for us!