Focusing on your wedding is good, but planning a honeymoon is still important.
In college, I heard in class couples are more likely to divorce if they do not go on a honeymoon. Now, I certainly do not believe that honeymoons are more important than weddings. I would never say your ability to plan and take a trip together is a good predictor of your future. However, I am coming to understand why there’s a possible correlation of neglecting a honeymoon and dissatisfaction in marriage.
A honeymoon is a traditional way of prioritizing your new spouse.
A honeymoon is not about extra expenses after an already expensive wedding. It’s not a tradition meant to add stress when you’re already trying to get time off work or school. A honeymoon is an opportunity to step away from life and bask in the new glow of your marriage!
When a couple takes a trip together, it’s out of the norm. You’re doing things you can’t do every day. You get to go somewhere you’ve never been, or someplace special you love. A honeymoon means sharing those experiences with your new spouse. It means taking time away from everything else just to be together.
A honeymoon can be anything from a day of hiking together and staying in a hotel to going to Europe for a week! Mini moons are an option a lot of couples take when they have work or college concerning them. It’s not meant to be a stressful experience that breaks the bank or causes problems when you get back. Honeymoons of any kind, for one night or ten, are to prioritize your new spouse.
It’s a memory to look back on.
Marriage will come with it’s hard times when you’re not as “passionate” for each other as you usually are. Good memories are so valuable to look back on when you go through rough patches. My parents still remember their honeymoon to Florida, 37 years later! My in-laws fondly remember their long night drive to their destination, 40 years later! Joshua and I will certainly always remember our cabin in the Ozarks and the excursions we did the week following our wedding.
I believe the possible correlation of no honeymoon to divorce is that you have less chance of remembering the details around your newlywed time. So many couples who divorce firmly believe their marriage was never good, instead of recognizing they’ve fallen into hard times. A honeymoon is a beautiful opportunity to prioritize your spouse after the wedding and have that memory to hold onto.