Mercy of a Father’s Love

by | Nov 21, 2023 | Church, Liturgy, Prayer, Teachings

Mercy and Death:

We can pray that mercy and death go hand in hand.  As we know, November, is the month of the Holy Souls. Apart from losing two older siblings since July and my beloved Godmother a year ago, I’ve had another stark reminder of the fragility of our mortality with the shocking news of the sudden and tragic death of a cousin.

His name is Jason. Jason was 44 with two children.  (It was actually his daughter’s 12th birthday the same day of her father’s funeral.) Jason was instantly killed by a speeding car whilst walking his dog. The driver confessed he was using his mobile phone at the time!

A Father’s Love:

Amidst the shock of the news I spoke on the phone to Jason’s father, my first cousin and Godfather. As you’d expect he was still distraught even after the funeral had taken place. And amidst the searing pain of loss and devastating impact of the incident upon so many (the driver has a young family too) my first cousin shared something remarkable with me.

He told me the father of the driver had the incredible courage and humility to attend the funeral and beg forgiveness for his son’s actions. He wasn’t making any excuses…he just (I suppose) was seeking some gesture of mercy that he as a father and grandfather of the other family might vicariously convey to them on their (the victim’s family) behalf. So often when Jesus performed His miracles he would say “your faith has saved you.”

The Forgiving Father:

I think this poor man’s own heartache was consoled by the acceptance of his plea by my Godfather [Jason’s dad]. Maybe it was a unique exchange only possible between two fathers in deep pain. But one thing is for sure; for them as fathers, that mercy from the Heavenly Father showered upon them will ripple outwards in to both devastated families and in time turn acute sadness and pain in to bearable sorrow by virtue of their shared Christian Faith.

So please keep these poor families in your prayers. One final thought which this encounter has reminded me of is that; “Humility simply means being as interested in other people as you are interested in yourself. … You’ve heard it before: humility doesn’t mean thinking less of yourself. It just means thinking of yourself less.”


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Edmund Adamus

Edmund and his wife Catherine have been married for almost 18 years and have been blessed with 3 children; Patrick (who awaits them in Heaven), Paul and Beatrice. After 13 years of ministry in the Salford diocese and gaining a Master's in moral theology, he served the Archdiocese of Westminster from 2003-16 as Director for Pastoral Affairs/Marriage & Family Life. He successfully established the Annual Mass of Thanksgiving for Matrimony in Westminster cathedral as well as the Annual Theology of the Body Lecture series hosting world renowned scholars such as Michael Waldstein, Janet Smith and Christopher West. Christian Meert was also among those speakers. All his work both past and present has been through the prism of the truths of Humanae vitae. Since 2019 he has been Education Consultant to the relationships and sexuality formation project 'A Fertile Heart: Receiving & Giving Creative Love'. As freelance consultant he works as Secretary to the Commission of Inquiry into Discrimination Against Christians in the UK and has just been appointed Executive Director for the UK branch of the International Voluntary Solidarity Fund

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